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Real Answers™
Copyright: ©2007 James J. Jackson
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By: James J. Jackson

May is the month in which we set aside a day to honor mothers.  Of all of God’s creations, mothers are a cut above.  Mothers bring forth into the world all manner of people, or step into the job of rearing someone who is in need of a mother.  Most of us have fond memories of our mothers as we grew up, taking us places, feeding and clothing us. 

We remember the unconditional love, the hugs, kisses, the warm smile, the caring touch.  We remember how she actually felt the pain when we got hurt.  We remember growing from a totally dependent state to the independent teenage state and into adulthood.  We remember Mother’s beaming pride whenever we experienced even the slightest accomplishment.

Fathers have more of a capacity of being aloof, noncommittal, even indifferent toward their children, but God somehow gave mothers an unbreakable bond to her children.  Mothers always try to put the best construction on their children’s actions and decisions.  Mothers light up at the mere thought of one of their children.

Mothers have been blessed with the capacity to love deeper, suffer more, care more and endure more pain than a father ever could.  Mothers spend time trying to shape their child into a good citizen, but will always be there if the child fails.  When describing her child, a mother will struggle to find kind adjectives to mask those traits that might seem less than desirable, while lathering on praise for those actions that are impressive.  Many mothers spend most of their lives on their knees, praying for the well-being of their children.

Sometimes we lead lives that honor our mothers, and make them proud of us.  Sometimes people bring shame upon their mothers by their actions.  Often, the child eventually asks for forgiveness, and reconciles with his mother.

But, imagine the plight of the mothers of those who wreak havoc and destruction upon innocent people.  Imagine the unspeakable pain and agony felt by the mothers of Timothy McVeigh, or the Cho Seung-Hui, the Virginia Tech murderer.  Imagine the dismay that comes from knowing that someone you reared, loved and nurtured, somehow developed such hatred, rage, or evil in his or her heart that drove them to seek and destroy any human life that wandered across their path.

While it is difficult for some people to have any compassion for the perpetrator who took the time to calculate, plan and carry out the deed, it is often easy to ignore or dispatch thoughts of the people in the murderer’s life who have to live with the aftermath.  Cho’s parents tell of having to go into hiding for fear of retribution from others for their son’s actions.

Imagine the questions that will never be answered.  Imagine the strange dichotomy of holding the deep mother love in your heart that is being crowded out by the bitter hatred of the deed your loving offspring has done.  It would seem that those who plan and carry out heinous acts must first suppress any thoughts of what the act will do to the person’s mother.  It is hard to believe that one could carry out murderous acts without worrying about the effect upon his or her family, particularly their mother.

Even when faced with a small indiscretion, I usually consider the effect it may have upon the memory of my mother, and I will refrain, rather than bring dishonor upon her memory.  It’s sad that so many people seem to be able to ignore the likely effect upon their family, particularly upon the one who bore them and tried to rear them honorably.  Even a mother who might be described as a bad parent usually desires the best for her children.

To take actions such as McVeigh amd Cho did would most certainly require that they first denounce the Biblical admonishment to “Honor your Mother and Father.”  In this month of particular focus on our mothers, please pray for peace and comfort for all others mothers, especially the mothers of such as these.

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